Feeling Unattractive

I believe that everyone has a time when they don’t truly feel attractive. For some, this moment last longer than others. I know I have certainly been in that place many times. I have often felt unattractive, not so pretty, or just felt like I was truly just ugly. For me, I know that it comes from past relationships and my teenage years. I was always the tomboy who was more of the friend type than the girlfriend type. Even into marriage, I had several time periods where I didn’t feel attractive whether it was because of my own insecurities, or my spouse not ever complimenting me or making comments about his attraction towards me. It just hurts differently when someone you love, doesn’t seem to be attracted to you. It’s easy to start feeling unworthy or just not beautiful enough. It may seem silly to some people but hearing how attracted the person you love is to you, can make you feel like a million bucks.

As a woman, this can really weigh heavily. I have had a very tough time over the years dealing with this issue. Where I have found peace and comfort is in my relationship with God. Knowing that He loves me is what keeps me lifted. There are certainly still days when I don’t feel so amazing, but just thinking about how blessed I am, and how God has allowed me to overcome so many obstacles makes me feel loved. When I think about being made in His image, I feel loved. When I think of Him dying on the cross for me, I know that I am loved. I know that He made me just the way I am because that’s what He wanted and I’m okay with that. I may not be beautiful to everyone, but I’m beautiful to Him, and that’s what I must remind myself to focus on.

If you struggle with low self-esteem, or feelings of unworthiness, and unattractiveness, pray about it. Ask God to show you His love. Pour yourself into getting to know a God who loves you more than anyone else in this world ever could.