The Ideal Mate

My sister and I were having a conversation about the ideal mate. She believes that her ideal mate should be in a similar career field as her. She believes that would mean the person understands her world and can relate to what she is passionate about. I think differently. I feel that the ideal mate doesn’t necessarily have to be in the same field as me. I just believe that with all of the people in the world, the chances of that happening are a bit slim. I also like to be more open minded when it comes to this issue. We don’t know God’s plan. He could have a spouse for someone who is in marketing, while they are a teacher.  I would hate to think that someone misses out on the love of their life because of a difference in careers or passion. Now being married for a second time, I can speak on both sides. I felt like the first time around church was a big part of why we stayed together for so long. That was our common passion, or so I thought. I believed that we were both dedicated to God and our roles in ministry. In the end, I honestly feel like I took my role more serious than he did and it didn’t work out. The life he claimed to live at church in front of others, was the complete opposite of what he did at home.  Now being married, I feel like if I was looking for someone who was exactly like me or shared exactly the same interests, I would have missed out. This is why I choose to now be more open minded. 

However, I do believe that there are some areas that your mate should be similar in.  Something that I am learning about myself is that I truly desire for my husband to be a positive motivator for me. I need him to be positive especially when speaking over our family. I need my partner to declare greatness over us. That is a non-negotiable. I can’t trust my husband to lead us if he doesn’t do this. My sister and I agreed that a go getter attitude is also important. Being with someone who is content with where they are in life and refuses to seek something better, is not an option. Everyone has to be aware of what they are willing to accept and what they won’t ever accept. One thing I know, is that when it comes to finding true love, we have to be open to whatever God's plan is. Being close minded, could cause someone to miss out on their happy ending. Love isn’t easy, and neither is finding a soulmate. However, when the time comes, don’t settle. Be sure about your needs. Be vocal about what you expect from your partner. Most importantly, don’t enter into a marriage before those expectations are made clear and you see consistent actions from your partner that lines up with your needs.  You only get one shot at this thing called life, so don’t waste a minute of it settling for anything less than what you deserve.