Take Advantage of the Lonely Place (V-day special)

Sometimes it’s hard to see anything positive after heartache. It’s easy to get stuck in a place of sadness or loneliness. It’s easy to give up and throw in the towel. The thing is, this is the best time to get to know yourself. Too often we don’t stop to spend time getting to know ourselves. It’s as if life is over and done with just because of some heartache and pain. However, you now have another chance to grow. After every test and every trial, there is something different about you. Either you’re made stronger, you have new strategies for coping, or you learn other life changing lessons. However, something is different. Why not take this time to really get to know who you are at this particular juncture in your life? I know for myself, it was really hard to be alone at one point. I was so used to always having someone in my space, so when I finally was alone, it was scary. I was alone with my thoughts and my emotions. I would think to myself… What if this is it? What if I’m going to always be alone? The problem is that nothing good comes from those thoughts. Instead, I should have been asking myself how I can improve during this alone time. I should have been focused on growing independently so that I can be a better me for myself. Being alone is not easy by any means, but it isn’t impossible. It’s what you do in the alone stage that prepares you for what’s to come. Spend more time with God. Hear whatever it is that He wants to say to you. He loves us more than anyone else can ever love us. All we have to do is trust His plan, and listen to His voice. Instead of focusing of all of the negative things about being alone, think of all the time you now have to focus on yourself. Now you can regroup and recharge. There is life after the heartache, so take advantage of this season.